Your sex life can change a lot during the pregnancy of your wife. Her desire most probably changes and even yours may change also. So, it is quite normal to be concerned about how your sex life will be during and after pregnancy. You may be worried about whether the baby will have a negative effect on your sex life. The good news is that most couples find that their sex lives get better. Different but better.
- Take your time to warm up and focus on foreplay. No need to rush. Pushing your wife to have sex before her mind and body are ready will harm your relationship.
- A great way to have fun is to shower together! Or bathe together. Not only will it save time and money for water but you might enjoy the setting.
- Discuss birth control. Don’t be someone who is caught two months after the birth of your baby wondering if your wife got pregnant because both of you took a chance.
- Try to plan some time alone for the two of you, even if it’s just to cuddle. Having a baby may leave you feeling “touched out,” but some special cozy time with your partner can help revive that, even before sexual intercourse is allowed or wanted.
- Life with a baby is different; different for both of you. Get to know each other a bit better. Remember you both have to adjust your life to being parents, even if it’s not your first child.
- Be spontaneous! Bedtime might not always be the right time. Nor will the bedroom always be the right place. Add some spice to your sex life, act like a teenager!
- Lubrication! Make sure you and your partner take enough time to get into the mood. If you think you need some more help than what Mother Nature is providing, be sure to use an over the counter lubricant rather than worry needlessly. If you’re still concerned talk to your practitioner.
- Go for quality not quantity. Having sex every night or every week should not be an objective. Figure out what timing is right for you, your wife and your relationship.
- Invite your wife to talk about any fears of sexual intercourse she may have. Maybe she is worried about the repair of an episiotomy or stitches or the recent images of delivering a baby.
- Accept that your wife may say ‘no’. This has nothing to do with loving you less or finding you less attractive. Sometimes the moment is just not there. There are also compromises that can be made along the way. Maybe intercourse is out but some good old-fashioned kissing and touching may be OK?
