The first part of the problem is admitting that your baby is different from what you expected or desired. Your family and friends may not be very forgiving when you hold a healthy child and you are sad because it’s not a girl or a boy. This can lead to many women not admitting that they are disappointed.
Admitting your feelings to someone you trust, like your partner, a friend, a relative, or your doctor can really help avoid future complications with your baby. It’s okay to feel disappointed. Don’t feel ashamed about these feelings, many women experience this. Talking is always a relief and it will definitely help in this situation. If you don’t feel like you can talk about it, try writing down what you feel.
Being disappointed doesn’t mean you don’t love your baby or that you’re a bad mother. It means that you had a dream of something specific and the end result is great, but different than how you had imagined it to be.
Some doctors say it is better to find out the gender of your baby during pregnancy with an ultrasound. Doing so can clear the way for a healthier postpartum period for both parents and baby. But whether you choose to find out the sex of your baby before or after birth, don’t be surprised if the news fills you with something other than pure joy.
Most women find that within a few weeks they’re so happy and they can’t imagine that they ever wanted something other than what they got. It just takes a bit of time to realize the gift they have.
If this is not the case, read the article on this website about postpartum depression and baby blues, to be sure you know what you’re dealing with.
